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Christian Tantra

And the two shall be one. —Matthew 19:5.

What is Tantra?

Tantra is an ancient practice of combining sexual energy and prayer. The easiest way to explain it is to compare sex with heating a pot of water.

Typical Sex. No prayer is involved. The couple puts the pot of water on the stove and turns the fire up full blast. The water gets hotter and hotter until it boils over and the fire goes out.

Tantric Sex. The couple begins with prayer. They put the pot of water on the stove and turn the fire on low. Prayer is continued, with more intensity, as the water gets warmer. If the water gets near the boiling point, the couple turns the fire down to a low simmer. Instead of boiling the water over, the couple uses the energy of the heated water to power their prayer, for a deeper connection to God and each other, for a long time.

My Spouse and I Tried This, But Our Pots Boiled Over Pretty Fast.

Practice, turn your fire down sooner for a while, until you learn to have longer and longer sessions. Then, you can practice with a hotter fire.

Isn't Tantra a Hindu Practice?

It is mostly known as a Hindu practice, but people of other faiths have practiced it for many centuries.

How Can It Be Christian?

Tantric techniques of directing the strong power of sex, into prayer, can just as easily be used for Christian prayer as it can for the prayers of any other religion.

Do We Need to Believe in Chakras?

The basic idea of chakras is that different energies are stored in different parts of the body. In Tantra, using the chakra system, you would be directing sexual energy from your root chakra (near your genitals) to your crown chakra (at the top of your head), where you connect with God. Whether that is true or not does not matter; the essence of what you are doing with Tantra is that you are directing energy from your sexual passions into prayer. You can do that without using the chakra system.

What About All Those Positions?

Various positions are just ways of adjusting the heat. You can use whatever positions you like.

So We Can Use Tantra in Our Marriage to Enhance Our Christian Prayer Together?


Can We Use the Energy We Generate for Healing Ourselves and Our Relationship?


Why Don't More Christian Churches Teach This?

Probably some combination of fear and not knowing.

I'm not a Christian, but I'm not a Hindu, either. Can I use the prayers from my religion with Tantra?

Use whatever prayers you like. God hears all prayers.

I'm Single. Do I Need a Spouse to Do This?

No, but, for a single person, Christian Tantra is quite different. Instead of building your sexual energy to high peaks, direct every bit of it into prayer. Keep your water no hotter than luke warm. If it gets any hotter, turn the fire off.

I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. —Song of Solomon 6:3.

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